A rather fierce debate has been raging at Kafila, the instigator is Zainab, a “Muslim” married to a “Telugu Brahmin” who discovered how deep is the hold of antediluvian ideas and practices in a city that has for sometime been touted as the hub of 21st century India.
She wrote a simple account of her experiences while searching for a house on rent in Bangalore. The piece also touched upon issues like communal profiling, stereotyping entire communities and such like. Some of those commentating on the piece have made ‘clever’ attempts at obfuscation by raising issues like loan quotas for Muslims and such other totally extraneous arguments. Never having studied economics, banking and/or commerce, never having had the resources to apply for a bank loan and not having my life enriched by the immensely educational experience of house hunting in Bombay and Bangalore, I will not try to take on Ipsita or comment on the secular practice of discrimination against all house hunters if they do not belong to the caste, religion, region, gender or economic status of the landlord.
I would talk about my experiences of house hunting in Delhi. I believe there are many lessons to be learnt there. I have learnt mine. A recounting of those “memorable” experiences may be of some help in understanding the contours of the 21st century “Urban India” that is rapidly rising all around us, even in the most non-urban of locations.
I began looking for a house on rent when I was 41, I had been married for a while, I had two young daughters, I had already lost most of my hair and had acquired a beard and a slight paunch. I looked fairly harmless and mildly respectable, no one had told me thus in so many words, but this was the general impression I gathered when I realised that even in the uncaring capital of this great nation I was being treated with a modicum of deference. While travelling in DTC buses I would occasionally be offered a seat, bus conductors, college going boys and girls and men and women twice their age would address me as unckalji and this I thought brought me within handshaking distance of senior citizen status.
So with a spring in my feet and an obsequious smile affixed permanently upon my visage I knocked on a door in Rajinder Nagar. The landlord had advertised in a local daily, I had called him, fixed an appointment and had arrived at the appointed hour. The conversation went something like this. Namasteji, I had called this morning about the house, “Yes yes, where do you work?”, PTI TV, “What is that ji?”, oh this is a TV company run by PTI, the well known News Agency, “You are a journalist ?” no I am a script writer, we produce a programme on Indian Culture for DD. “I see, we will need three month’s rent in advance, three month’s rent as security, a company lease for 11 months, renewable after a year at our discretion, 10% increase in rent annually, in case the lease is extended”.
I agreed and said I will have to check about company lease from the office and get back. “Sure take your time, call me whenever you have the information.” The entire conversation took place with me in the street and the landlord standing in his half open door. He did not offer to show me the accommodation that he was putting out on rent and I, being new to the game, did not demand to see the house.
Having checked from office and having prepared a draft for the lease I reached the house again in the evening. “What did you say your name was?”, Sohail Hashmi, “Where are you from?”, from Delhi, “No I mean originally”, yes originally from Delhi, “How come you don’t have a house if you are from Delhi”, no I used to stay with my mother, but she lives in Rohini and it is very far from the school where my kids study and also from mine and my wife’s office. “Oh, by the way, by caste what are you (sic)?” I don’t have a caste. “Are you a Christian?” No. “Then?”. I was not making it easy for him, I wasn’t telling him what he wanted to ask and felt ashamed of saying, finally he did, “Are you a Mohammedan?” and I said yes in name I am one. “Sorry ji, I hope you understand, some of my best friends are Muslims but you see you will cook meat, I also eat out side, but my father you know what old people are like, he has told me no meat eating tenants”.
I trudged away, hoping that the next encounter will be different. Sometime ago the smile plastered on my face had departed and the spring in my feet had turned into a dead weight. And so began a five month long search. Five months of reading news paper ads, calling people fixing appointments, meeting them before and after office hours, following leads given by friends, spending hours hanging around shady property dealers’ offices, spending every single Sunday and other off days in this futile, tiring, frustrating and fruitless exercise. There are very few areas, with in my range, where I did not go, Scores of houses in New and old Rajinder Nagar, Pusa Road, Patel Nagar- east and west, Lajpat Nagar, Malviya Nagar, Amar Colony, Jangpura, Bhogal, Kalkaji, DDA Colonies in Siddharth Enclave, Munirka, Kalkaji, Hauz Khas, even Government colonies in Sarojini Nagar, Lakshmi Bai Nagar, Netaji Nagar, Kidwai Nagar, Lodi Colony.
In government Colonies, I was told, you can get a house without any paperwork, they are not very demanding, most of them have no issues with the denominational or gastronomic preferences of their illegal tenants, you pay cash and that’s all they are interested in. The landlord meets you once a month takes his money and goes. The only disadvantage was, if the illegality is reported by a jealous colleague of the landlord, you will have to vacate within 24 hours. But this rarely happens since people have been living like this for years. I was prepared to face even this eventuality but was spared the experience because no one rented his government allotted house to me.
And so it went, week after week, month after month. Everywhere it was the same story, you agreed to all the terms and conditions, but the moment they began reading the draft lease document and came to the phrase, ‘Whereas Sohail Hashmi S/o late Shri Haneef Hashmi of the first party has agreed to..,’ they were overcome by a sudden metamorphosis in their entire demeanour, their eyes became opaque, they began to fidget and shift uneasily.
Plain lies, thought on the spur of the moment, were bandied about. Unforeseen developments that had unfolded since our last meeting, had tied the hands of the landlord and the place was no longer available. One gentleman told me that his brother who had settled down in the US had decided to return with family and so ‘Very sorry the house is not available’, I began telling him “less than half an hour ago you asked me bring the lease papers…” but I already talking to his ample posterior retreating behind a rapidly closing door.
The cake however was taken by a gentleman who, initially at least, appeared to be rather slow on the uptake, because it took him more than four meetings to figure out that he was dealing with a Muslim. The moment, however, this realisation dawned upon him, he was transformed into an extremely sharp man who was capable of thinking on his feet and coming up with a fairly cogent argument in support of his decision to deny me the privilege of becoming his tenant.
He was very polite and very firm, he told me that the local residents association had resolved not to give houses to unknown people in view of the growing threat of terrorism. He informed me that the decision had been taken on the advice of the local police. I tried to explain to him that a tenant was always someone who came from outside, if he was already known, he would already be a resident in the area and would not be looking for rented accommodation. Since he had no answer to this, he said, without police verification it was not possible.
I knew I could crack this one, I knew the local ACP, the then DCP of the area. Several other senior police IPS and IAS officers posted at Delhi during that time were either my batch mates or my juniors from JNU or their friends who I knew fairly well, the list included the DCP Crime and railways and the PS to the home minister, I was confident that they would give me a good conduct certificate if I asked them for it and so I said, name the police officer and he will give you a good conduct certificate for me. The gentleman said Sorry. The retreating back and the closing door once again.
The funny thing is that no one ever said to me that they will not give me the house because I am a Muslim. Those who had been approached through property agents told them to take me someplace else when they realised that I belonged to their favourite community. Those less fortunate had to tell me off themselves and came up with all kinds of excuses, eating onions and garlic or meat were the easiest and the commonest, not giving a house on rent to unknown entities, because of increasing threat of terrorism and police advice were the most ingenious and the story of unforeseen developments, like an NRI brother suddenly returning, among the most blatant of lies. The net result was the same, an extreme reluctance to say what they wanted to say and still conveying to me that I and those like me were not welcome.
All this happened to me before 6th December 1992, in fact the first refusal must have been handed to me in Dec 2001 almost a year before that fateful date. Things were not very different in Delhi 15 or 20 years earlier. A young couple from JNU had faced all this in 1980, they were both Muslims and after house hunting for close to three months had to eventually settle for a hovel in Hauz Raani, an urban village in south Delhi, they got a house there because the village has a sizeable Muslim population and I think their Landlord was also a Muslim. I cite this instance to show that this has nothing to do with Islam and terrorism becoming synonymous from the late 80s as far as people of a certain political dispensation are concerned.
I bring up the case of the young Muslim couple to point to another aspect of my house hunting adventures. The news that Sohail Hashmi was looking for a house and not finding one had spread among my friends, one of these brave souls, came to meet me, he was very agitated and said Sohail Bhai, this can’t be true.
I told him it was. He said I’ll find you a house, within this week; I invited him to join the search party and asked him if has an area in mind and he said yes, I’ll find you a house in Okhla. I said I don’t even want to exercise that option, why do all Muslims have to live in ‘designated Muslim Areas’. He said you will have to willy-nilly go there because they will not let you live anywhere else. I told him you can try; I don’t think you will succeed. In other parts I don’t get a house because I am a Muslim and in Okhla I’ll not get one because it is known that I am not one.
He won’t believe me and left promising instant results. He was to return a week later, some what subdued. Like a modern day marketing consultant he told me something that I already knew and the knowledge had not helped me. Among the Muslims I was a persona non grata because my father had preferred the electric crematorium to a grave, so had my brother, the same brother had married a Hindu, one sister had also done the same and another had married a Sikh. The impression that my friend gathered after his interactions with whoever he approached as my ambassador at large was that they were not very keen on my company.
We had by this time reached a stage that we rang up people, told them we were Muslims and looking for a house and finally we contacted a Jat Sub inspector in Delhi police, we put our cards on the table and he said are you Indians? We said yes and he said on the ground floor there is an Oriya boy he is a plumber, take the key from him, the rent is Rs 2300 per month you have to pay by the 7th or you vacate on the 7th. He met us for the first time when he came to collect the rent. We stayed in that house for 4 years. It had taken us 5 months to find one person who did not refuse us a house because of our religion. My subsequent expeditions for house hunting in 1995, 1999-2000 and 2004 were, if any thing, far more educative, not so much for me as for my daughters who were now in their teens and for a young Rajasthani Brahmin couple, my former colleagues, who had taken it upon themselves to help us find a house. “But”, as Jack Lemmon said in Irma La Douce “that my friend is another story.”
Really proud of this India!
what a shame!!
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As some of my neighbours posted on their doors, without irony: “Garv se kaho, hum hindu hein.”
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My experience dates back as far as 1975! During my rigmarole, I was often told “Ji …. Aap Muslim lagtay to nahin hain”. I used to look myself up and down, even my rear, but soon realised what they meant possibly – I did not have a bela / chemeli string of flowers around my wrist, was not spitting paan, wearing a DUPALLI TOPI and singing qawwalis (Recall Jagdeep or the likes of BANNAY KHAN BHOPALI).
Bollywood has done its bit in stereotyping Muslims just in the same measure probably as Sardarji jokes!
Mother luck finally smiled on me from Soami Nagar from a family of supposedly very staunch conservatives – the Radha Swamis !!!!!!! An uncle of a colleague of mine took me aside and said, “Aaram say Raho meri barsati mein. Kiraya Rs. 130 mahina dena. Jo marzi khao, bas anday kay chilkay bahar mat phekna”. It reinforced my strong belief that it is nothing short of a crime to stereotype people.
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in Response to Mujib
The Radha swamis, aside from being rather fussy about their vegetarianism are rather open. This is a sect that started at Agra. they are head quartered at dayal bagh. their was a later split in the sect the broke away branch has grown far more than the original, the break away is known as radha swami vyas. For the dayal bagh sect radha swami symbolises the one creator and he can be reached only through unquestioning love like that of radha for krishan. the temple has texts of the unity of all beings drawn from all religions written on the walls. there is kabir nanak, iqbal, meera and many others.
I have found that every conservative beliver is not necessarily communal, actually most them are not. it is the born again, “modern” believers who are in fact among the most reactionariy and they cut through all faiths.
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Shocking and disturbing…
It’s been years since I heard anything about India that made me feel proud.
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By the time I came to it, in the early 2000s, people had grown franker. Most told us they would not give it to us because we were Muslims. We were lucky wih one Afghani Sardar in Chittranjan Park, and another kind broker in SIddharth Enclave, but eventually had to return to Okhla, dum daba ke…
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Hindus are very clever in using the word Aap lagte to nahi hai,means they are abusing my parents.they always use same word to dalits and muslims.They know that we are muslims but to abuse some body in different way.Kute ki dum will always bend even if you are keeping for thousand year.
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Glad to hear about your positive outlook Mujib. India has 154 million Muslims compared to 164 million in Pakistan. Do we truly believe that the majority of Muslims living in India feel unloved and ostracised?
I come from the south, and I would sometimes be told aap Madrasi nahin lagte.. how endearing :-); it was meant to be a complement but indirectly it meant I have a good enough accent to belong to the NI crowd. Should we become defensive? Does it matter?
I grew up in Delhi among Christians and Muslims and never came across such discussions at home, at school or among family. Maybe children and young people are blind to these issues. Only adults seem to have the time to spend on philosophising and analyzing issues and in the process creating animosity even if there was none.
Again a landlord may not wish to give the apartment/house to a meat-eating tenant (that is partially religious and partially just a principle) nothing against the Muslims or for that matter the Christians or even meat-eating Hindus (there is a large enough body of Hindus who eat fish and meat).
If the injustice against our Muslim families was indeed the way it is portrayed by a few unfortunate incidents, then don’t you think India would not be lauded as a democracy, that Muslims would leave in huge numbers to a country that has only people of that particular faith.
Our country is truly secular – let us sink our differences, why dont more people write about the wonderful experiences they have had among people of different faiths, different lifestyles? How can we be accepted in another country when we ourselves dwell on differences.
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Re: REMA
This ipso facto kind of argument is rather interesting.
” India’s being lauded as a democracy is evidence that injustice can only be an exception”
( who is doing the lauding and why, is something that can be the basis of another debate altogether and so i’ll desist from broaching that mine-field for the time being)
If I was to say that the fact of 42 % of Indians living below the poverty line (world bank figures, world bank also lauds indian democracy!!!) is shameful, does it mean that both i and the WB are belittling the institution of Democracy?
If the Census of India and I say that the male-female ratio in india is constantly on the decline because we kill girls before they are born. does it turn me and the Census of India into anti democratic elements?
if I say that those responsible for killing Sikhs in 1984, for killing Christians in Dangs, Khandamal and elsewhere and for killing muslims all over the country over the last 62 years are never punished and that all minorities are being presented as enemies of India am i running down Indian democracy.
Since when has justice become a synonym of democracy and since when asking questions, no matter how uncomfortable they might be, become anti democratic?
Isn’t the right to ask questions and demand answers the one thing that is a distinguishing feature of democracy?
Are you suggesting that any one demanding equal rights as a citizen is welcome to leave.
According to you we should not point to the serious shortcomings in our system because of the fear of what others will say.
If you have some other method that will automatically ensure justice, without any body having to point to the prevalence of injustice I am prepared to give it my most sympathetic consideration, meanwhile i will continue to exercise my democratic right to ask uncomfortable questions.
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Just curious…if people won’t rent to ‘meat eating Hindus’ will they rent to a vegetarian Muslim? (yes, we do exist)
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I don’t know. Those that refuse to let a muslim be their tenant are normally not bothered about their food preferences. And i would presume that in the reverse scenario such individuals will not be too concerened about the food habits of their potential Hindu tenants. The denial of tenency is because they are Mausies, the food preferences are a fig leaf to camouflage communal biases.
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“In other parts I don’t get a house because I am a Muslim and in Okhla I’ll not get one because it is known that I am not one.”
I was reminded of Topi Shukla – “jise kahiN Hindu hone ki wajah se naukri nahi milti thi aur kahiN musalman hone ki wajah se”
A strange country we live in. The fault lines are everywhere and yet we see people like yourself and Topi Shukla carving their unique lives and keep blurring the lines.
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I don’t mind living across this divide, in fact I consider it a privilege, the blurring of denominational identities give me great pleasure. Unfortunately the number of those who revelled in the loss of these distinctions is decreasing with alarming rapidity.
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